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Accessing Personal Power

Duration: Two day course. 9.00am – 5.00pm

Personal power is the ability to take effective action, do something, and make a difference.

When you have personal power, you have the capacity to access specific internal resources for utilising external resources and apply both to a specific challenge. And when you have personal power in this way, you have an inner sense and knowing that you can make things happen, that you are not a victim of life, that you are at choice and that you have tremendous powers for guiding and architecting your life. Are you ready for that?

When you have personal power you have the sense of “learned optimism” instead of “learned helplessness” (Seligman) and you have the sense that “nobody can make you think or feel or say or do anything,” that you are the creator of your life and that you have the ultimate human choice—the freedom to determine what you think, feel, say, and do (Frankl).

So given all of this—

How much personal power do you have at this moment from 0 to 10? ____

How much more personal power would you like to develop? ____

To what extent do you currently understand how to develop that personal power?____

How committed are you to fully developing your personal power? ____

In this program you will be accessing the fundamental components, the basic elements that come together to create personal power. First we will identify them and then we will use the basic models of NLP and Neuro-Semantics to take them from mere concepts, ideas, even beliefs and integrate them so fully that you become centered and grounded in them with a felt sense that you have these personal powers to be the “author” (“authority”) of your own life—to define the script you want to live by and then live that script of your visions and values. Then, being true to your highest and best, will give you the congruency and integrity to live your life rather than being a puppet of someone else’s ideas.

In this program, you will learn to access certain complex states of mind and emotion like acceptance, appreciation, awe, meaning-making, permission, intentionality, focus, and accountability for the purpose of setting these higher level states as your mental and emotional frames. And when you do that, then as your frame of mind and your reference frame, these states with all of the rich powers within them will empower you.

Your fundamental powers are your powers of your human processing of information: thinking, emoting, speaking and acting.

As you use your nervous system and brain to think-and-feel, you construct your sense of reality, your inner maps and models that then guide your speaking and acting. Constructing meaning in this way from your learnings as you draw conclusions, define what is real, and what leads to what informs the “beliefs” that you set in mind.

These either support or limit you; they either unleash more and more of your potentials, or they diminish you as a person and undermine your ability to take effective action.

The Power of recognizing and owning your personal powers.

  1. The Power of Distinguishing Responsibility to and for
  2. The Power of Acceptance.
  3. The Power of Awe.
  4. The Power of Meaning.
  5. The Power of permission and embracing.
  6. The Power of Appreciation.
  7. The Power of Intention.
  8. The Power of Focus.

Many of these powers will probably surprise you and not seem like “powers.” They may even seem like everything but a “power.” But don’t let this stop you or fool you. If you take these facets of life as “obvious and not that important,” you essentially will be discounting them and in doing that, denying their empowerment. So as you experience the following patterns, at least give them a chance to do their magic within you.

Recognizing and Owning your Personal Powers.

We call this pattern The Power Zone. This pattern enables you to become crystal clear about the fundamental components of your personal powers so that you can fully claim them. Failure to do this lies at the heart of every person who experiences life as a victim, as helpless, who feel needy and dis-empowered, who enter into dependent relationships with others wanting them to take care of them, and who spend their energy complaining, blaming, and accusing when things go wrong.

The Power of Distinguishing Responsibility to and from.

This is the power of recognizing the power to respond to those with whom we have a relationship from our responses. Making this distinctions enables us to set and hold boundaries between ourselves and others. Drawing the line between what you are responsible for (your accountabilities) and who you are responsible to enables us to be sane and to not take on the responsibilities of others.

The Power of Acceptance.

If there is any resource that doesn’t feel powerful, it is acceptance. But don’t let that deceive you. Acceptance is a state of tremendous power and even magic. The opposite of acceptance is rejection. It is fighting and arguing with the facts of what is, and refusing to take life on its own terms instead of your wishes, dreams, and illusions. In grief recovery, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross mapped out that many people go through Shock, Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression, and then Acceptance. In Neuro-Semantics we say, “Why not just start with acceptance and avoid all the fight and the emotional roller-coaster?” Acceptance provides the magic of serenity and from that to focus.

The Power of Awe.

If acceptance puts us on good terms with reality enabling us to accept what is so that we can then begin to deal with it, then awe empowers us to treat what is really special and highly valuable as indeed special and sacred. Awe is the emotion of wonder,marvel,and amazement at the greatness, bigness, and ultimate value of something. We all feel it from time to time. Many are embarrassed by it. Others feel afraid of it. But it is a power and if you know how to use it and what to do with it, you will be able to stand in awe of the mystery and wonder of being human, of creating meaning, and of your ultimate value as a human being. Then you can use it to establish once-and-for-all that you worth is a given, that you don’t have to prove anything, and that you are unconditionally worthwhile and so esteem yourself with unconditional positive regard. This gets your ego out of the way freedom you to focus on what you can learn, experience, and give.

The Power of Meaning.

What you process mentally-and-emotionally and “hold in mind” becomes what some thing “means.” That’s what “meaning” is. Meaning is whatever you “hold in mind,” and you hold things in mind by representing, editing, framing, believing, deciding, intending, etc. As a meaning-maker, this is your power for creating meaning. And as you create meaning, so you are. Your power to create meaning occurs in layers as you layer thoughts upon feelings and feelings upon thoughts and this makes up a “matrix” of ideas, beliefs, understandings, etc. in which you then live and move and have your being. Becoming aware of this, and taking ownership of this empowers you — it is one of the ultimate powers as it gives you the freedom to author your own life as you see fit. This gives you the power of interpretation which then frees from you the control of any event or person. Your interpretative style becomes your ultimate power.

The Power of Permission and Embracing.

While your meanings are the engine of power, you feel those meanings as the emotions that you create which registers the feel of the meanings. So if we ask, What do meanings feel like? They feel like emotions. The emotions that result from our meanings register somatically them in our body. Emotions are therefore the somatic registering of the difference between what we have mapped as our meanings about things and our experience of the corresponding things. This makes our emotions important information and always right—right to the maps and experiences that they are weighing in relationship to each other.

And if they are right to these comparative contexts, then permitting them to be and embracing them as one information source empowers us to use them as signals and information. Today emotional intelligence has become a recognized value and Goleman’s definition of EQ is self-awareness, self-monitory, relationship awareness, and self- discipline.

The Power of Appreciation.

Seeing, recognizing, and valuing the importance of something is the heart and soul of appreciation. In appreciating, we see and attribute value, we attribute rich meanings, we identify significance, and we access a state of gratitude. It is in and from this state that we are able to find the things that count, and so sacrilize. With appreciation we can value our gifts and strengths, the values that others offer, and the possibilities yet to be discovered. Appreciation, as a human power, is a power that makes us rich.

The Power of Intention.

Attention is powerful because energy flows where attention goes. But what guides and directs attention? Intention. Attention answers the what question, “What are you paying attention to?” “What’s on your mind?” “What are you focusing on?” Intention answers the why question. “Why are you attending to that? Why do you have that on your mind?

Why that focus?” Intentionality gives our mind direction, focus, and purpose. It sets our agenda, motives, motivations, and direction.

The Power of Focus.

How do we create and hold an focused attention so that it fully engages us and governs the focus of our mind? Beyond setting an intention, we set the frames that protect when and where an how we focus consciousness. And in doing this we create the genius state of engagement or flow.